The friend zone is one painful place that no man wants to be. Just when you think things are going great, and the thoughts of asking her out begin to creep in, your world comes tumbling down. This is the where she tells you she likes you as a friend, or worst still, that you are like a brother to her. The friend zone is no new concept. It has been there since the beginning of romance, and this is no place you will ever want to find yourself in. If you keep falling into that friend’s category, there is something that you are getting seriously wrong. Fortunately for you, there are a couple of things that you can do to avoid this happening in the first place.
What exactly is the friend zone?
The friend zone is pretty much what it sounds like. You have been put in the friends category, and that is one place you are never going to leave. Only very few lucky individuals have been able to escape this place. In short, you will be that guy that she goes to when she needs to hang out or simply talk. It all sounds very well and pleasant, but you are never going to get any action. To her, your relationship is completely platonic. She will bear no sexual feelings towards you, so ever getting into her pants, let alone getting her to go out with you will be an effort in futility. It is however possible to avoid this happening in the first place in a few simple steps.
Be her friend, but not like the others
The easiest way to get close to a girl is to talk to her. Befriend her, but don’t be her girlfriend. She has enough girl friends to talk about boy problems that jerk at work and so on. Spend time talking to her, but choose what you say very carefully. Think date talk. Ask her about her favourite movies, places she likes to visit, her plans for the upcoming weekend and so on. If you follow this route, she will definitely sense your intentions, and will not consider you as a candidate for the friend zone.
Get her when she is alone
You need to time your conversations with her perfectly. If you see her with a group of friends, say hi and move on. You cannot hit a girl when there is an audience so there is no point in even trying. Get her when she is alone. This is the perfect time to bring on your A-game. Make her laugh, but make it natural. If someone interrupts, say something funny, maybe about how things get interrupted just when you are making headway. It will of course come out as a joke, but it will get her thinking about the prospects of going out with you.
Flattery will get you very far
Tell her she looks good, or she smells good or whatever. Just be honest about your compliments, women can detect a lie from a mile away. Butter her up without going to the extreme. A few subtly but cleverly executed sexual innuendoes will also get you ahead. The point is to let her see you in a sexual way, and see that there is a sexual possibility between the two of you. That way, you can be sure to avoid the friend zone.
Don’t be afraid to touch
This one is a tricky one. You don’t want to be too touchy that you come off as creepy. The point is to treat her like your girlfriend, but not really. It is not that difficult. When you are alone, offer her your arm if she is in heels or you are walking on uneven ground. Open doors for her pull her chair and hold her arm when you are crossing the street. If you are around her friends however, keep things normal. She will start associating time alone with you as being equal to being treated like a queen. Let her see that there is something for her to gain from spending time alone with you. Make her feel special every chance you get.
Ask her out
Ultimately, the best way to avoid the friend zone and get the girl of your dreams is simply to ask her out. The worst that she can do is say no. If you have followed the above steps, it should be smooth sailing from here. By now, you will have gotten a sense of whether or not she likes you. If she is not responsive, you might be better off with someone else, so save yourself the embarrassment. Chances are however that she will be into you, and will say yes.
Avoiding the friend zone is really not that difficult. Be confident in executing each of these steps and you should have no problem getting the girl of your dreams to go out with you.