Dec
2014

How to Avoid the Friend Zone: Make her want you!

dissappointed-manThe friend zone is one painful place that no man wants to be. Just when you think things are going great, and the thoughts of asking her out begin to creep in, your world comes tumbling down. This is the where she tells you she likes you as a friend, or worst still, that you are like a brother to her. The friend zone is no new concept. It has been there since the beginning of romance, and this is no place you will ever want to find yourself in. If you keep falling into that friend’s category, there is something that you are getting seriously wrong. Fortunately for you, there are a couple of things that you can do to avoid this happening in the first place.

What exactly is the friend zone?

The friend zone is pretty much what it sounds like. You have been put in the friends category, and that is one place you are never going to leave. Only very few lucky individuals have been able to escape this place. In short, you will be that guy that she goes to when she needs to hang out or simply talk. It all sounds very well and pleasant, but you are never going to get any action. To her, your relationship is completely platonic. She will bear no sexual feelings towards you, so ever getting into her pants, let alone getting her to go out with you will be an effort in futility. It is however possible to avoid this happening in the first place in a few simple steps.

Be her friend, but not like the others

The easiest way to get close to a girl is to talk to her. Befriend her, but don’t be her girlfriend. She has enough girl friends to talk about boy problems that jerk at work and so on. Spend time talking to her, but choose what you say very carefully. Think date talk. Ask her about her favourite movies, places she likes to visit, her plans for the upcoming weekend and so on. If you follow this route, she will definitely sense your intentions, and will not consider you as a candidate for the friend zone.

Get her when she is alone

You need to time your conversations with her perfectly. If you see her with a group of friends, say hi and move on. You cannot hit a girl when there is an audience so there is no point in even trying. Get her when she is alone. This is the perfect time to bring on your A-game. Make her laugh, but make it natural. If someone interrupts, say something funny, maybe about how things get interrupted just when you are making headway. It will of course come out as a joke, but it will get her thinking about the prospects of going out with you.

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Flattery will get you very far

Tell her she looks good, or she smells good or whatever. Just be honest about your compliments, women can detect a lie from a mile away. Butter her up without going to the extreme. A few subtly but cleverly executed sexual innuendoes will also get you ahead. The point is to let her see you in a sexual way, and see that there is a sexual possibility between the two of you. That way, you can be sure to avoid the friend zone.

Don’t be afraid to touch

This one is a tricky one. You don’t want to be too touchy that you come off as creepy. The point is to treat her like your girlfriend, but not really. It is not that difficult. When you are alone, offer her your arm if she is in heels or you are walking on uneven ground. Open doors for her pull her chair and hold her arm when you are crossing the street. If you are around her friends however, keep things normal. She will start associating time alone with you as being equal to being treated like a queen. Let her see that there is something for her to gain from spending time alone with you. Make her feel special every chance you get.

Ask her out

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Ultimately, the best way to avoid the friend zone and get the girl of your dreams is simply to ask her out. The worst that she can do is say no. If you have followed the above steps, it should be smooth sailing from here. By now, you will have gotten a sense of whether or not she likes you. If she is not responsive, you might be better off with someone else, so save yourself the embarrassment. Chances are however that she will be into you, and will say yes.

Avoiding the friend zone is really not that difficult. Be confident in executing each of these steps and you should have no problem getting the girl of your dreams to go out with you.

Dec
2014

Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

woman-cryingI have always been attracted to the “bad boy”type. That is why when my husband came along he was a change. I had just gotten over a bad relationship with a guy that treated me less than stellar, when he walked into my life. He was so sweet, constantly asking me what I wanted, I fell in love instantly. Being that I was used to guys who couldn’t care less about what I wanted, I soon became somewhat irritated by his need to please. There came a point where, not only did I start to take him for granted, I started to push him to see what he would do for me, just because. After about six months into our relationship, he got tired of being walked over, and he walked out. That was one of the most devastating days of my life. You see, we never fully understand what we have until it is gone. I didn’t understand what a great guy I had until he walked out. If you have recently lost that guy in your life, stay strong, there is still a chance of getting your ex boyfriend back just like I did. After all, I no longer call him my boyfriend, we have been happily married for ten years now.

Getting your ex boyfriend back may not be easy

Once a guy is done, he is done. For whatever reason your guy has decided to move on, there may still be a solution to getting him back. Unlike women, guys stay in love for much longer than we do. Their love is pretty hard to extinguish. Even if he says he no longer wants to be with you, chances are he does. He is just tired of the way you treat him. If you think that crying, or begging to get him back is going to work, it probably won’t. If he is so upset with you that he ended things, your tears can be saved. He has probably had enough of your emotions, especially the kinds that are used to manipulate.

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If you have been together for a while you may have stopped caring about the way that you look, or behave in his presence. Think back to the time when you used to put some effort into the way that you appeared. What happened to that girl that used to go to the hair salon? Better yet, what happened to that girl that used to go to the gym? If you have put on a couple of pounds because you started to let yourself go, it is time to hit the gym again. When you put on weight, and stop caring about the way that you look, guys usually won’t say anything. Just because they aren’t saying anything, doesn’t mean that they aren’t thinking. What your lack of concern about your appearance says to him is that you don’t care about him. If you want to get him back it is going to take some real work on your part.

What was it that he fell in love with?

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If you think back to when you met ,there was something about you that captivated him. Is it still there? Can you honestly say that if he met you today, he would be as dazzled by you? When women and men first get together we are full of praise. We are grateful and complimentary, and above all, we look at them adoringly. After time, we begin to do a fairly good job of pointing out their faults. If you have been overly critical of them, it is time to stop being negative and to see the good in them again. Remind him of all the things you love about him, instead of all the things that he does wrong.

Above all, be happy with yourself. If you have put on weight, become hyper critical and stopped paying attention to the way you look, you can’t feel good about yourself. When w e don’t feel good about the way we look, it begins to radiate to the things around us. If you want to win him back, it is not only important to start caring about your looks for him, but for yourself as well. No one wants to be with someone who doesn’t care about the way that they look, or feels poorly about themselves. By getting yourself back to you, back to the person you used to be, you will have the best chance of getting your ex boyfriend back. The best part is that you will be able to find yourself and your own smile again. Sitting around crying, eating ice cream, and being depressed isn’t going to get him back. It is time to pull yourself together and become the person you want to be, the person he met. Worst case scenario, if it doesn’t work, at least you will be able to move on with your life again.

Mar
2014

How To Get Free Stock Trades

One of the first numbers you will come across when you start looking for brokerage firms is the fee per trade. This how much the company will charge you to put through a trade on your account. It will usually be a minimum of $10 for a regular account, but you might get a smaller fee if you trade more frequently. However, as the online broker market opens up and more and more companies are vying for you attention, more companies are turning to promotional offers to get you to sign up for their brokerage firm. Just like Netflix will offer a month’s free service, so too will these brokers. Often these promotions will run for 90 days or so, or for a certain number of trades. This is a great way to get started in the online trading game and free stock trades allow you to not feel to worried about your first few trades. However, it is a bad idea to choose a brokerage firm and a specific account just for the promotional offer and free trades. Those will be gone within 3 months, and then you will be paying full price. Make sure you choose your broker on their overall ability, reputation and account details rather than on which is going to be cheapest for your first few trades.

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Free Stock Trades Promotions

Here are a few examples of the promotions that different companies run, and at different levels of brokerage. I am not promoting these in particular, and some might have expired, but they will give you a flavor of what might be on offer and what you might be able to negotiate at your account opening.

  • USAA offers an account where there is no initial funding required. This is very rare as most accounts will ask you to deposit a certain amount, probably at least $1000 initially when you open your account. The USAA account has no such limit and runs a promotion where you can get 50 free trades within the first 90 days of your account. USAA is a company that primarily serves US military personnel, but you are not required to have served, or by a family member of someone who has served, to open and investment account. This company prides itself on its customer service and is usually high ranked in that regard.
  • AmeriTrade is one of the largest online brokerage firms and in the past has offered promotions for some of its clients. If you open an account with an initial deposit of $2000, you will receive 60 days of free trades. Ameritrade provides great research and analytics and is usually reasonably priced, even without the promotions.
  • Optionshouse is another big broker, popular with online traders. When you open an account with them, depositing $5000 or more, they will give you 100 free trades to be used within the first sixty days of opening the account. The also offer good research and analysis, and, if you don’t have $5000 to invest immediately to get the free trades, they also have accounts with no minimums.
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  • Firsttrade offers a promotion identical to optionshouse, with 100 free trades for those investing a minimum of $5000. This promotion only differs in that you have to keep the account open for at least a year, and maintain the initial balance of $5000, something that could be difficult to do if those 100 free trades do not go to plan.
  • E*Trade is a probably the biggest of the online brokers that have sprung up in the last few years. Open an account with E*Trade and deposit $10000, and they will give you 60 days’ worth of free trades.

Other Considerations

Some of these will look more tempting than others, and a lot of it will depend on how much you have to invest initially, and what the commission and other fee charges are after your free time or trades are up.

You may be tempted to think that you can chop and change and move you trading account around between these brokers, hoovering up free trades as you go, but beware, a number of companies will charge you to both open and close accounts on top of these commission charges, and some, such as the first trade promotion above, explicitly state you have to remain a customer of the firm for those initial charges to be free.

The other downside with free stock trades is that it can be a bit too easy to start trading far too much in your first few months if there is no commission holding you back. Having that extra fee makes you think twice about moving small positions and when you can make small trades of free, it may be a bad idea. Ideally you should have decided you investment and trading strategy before you looked at these promotions and chose a broker, so you already knew how many trades per day, pre week, or per month was good for you. Stick to this strategy, and do not go trade-crazy just because you have free trades to use up.